Archive for May, 2011

May 23, 2011

Sister Wives.

Do you watch it? It’s a show on TLC that follows the Brown family. The Browns consist of Kody (the husband), Meri (the first & only legal wife), Janelle (the second wife), Christine (the third wife), Robin (the fourth wife), & their collective children (which I think total 17). The children go to public school, & Kody, Meri, & Janelle (& maybe now Robin, too) work outside the home. Meri actually lost her job not long after the premier & had to search for a new one. Christine stays home with the younger children. They used to live in Utah, but had to move after their show aired its first season. Why? Because Utah officials were investigating their family. Not because of abuse or neglect allegations, but because they are polygamists.

Now, let me just clear something up. I am not a polygamist. I would never be a polygamist. It’s not the lifestyle for me. But I respect the decision. & it is their decision. I believe it is their decision.

Let’s look at this at a few different angles for a moment.

A man, (we’ll call him Larry) has a rather, ahem, promiscuous sex life. He fathers several children with several different women. He makes no commitment to his children or their mothers. If the kids are lucky, he has a job & pays child support. If they are super-lucky, he spends every other weekend with them (presumably not also with their mothers). Unless someone suspects abuse or neglect, they live their lives without any interference.

Another angle. I’m sure you’ve heard of Jim Bob & Michelle Duggar & their 19 children. They own rental properties & car dealerships (& who knows what other businesses). They support their children, homeschool, go to church, & believe that the only birth control they need is faith in God. They buy used clothing, toys, books, cars. They built their own house from the ground up – it was a family affair, with all the kids pitching in to help.

So how do these compare to the Browns?  Well, in all situations there are multiple children with a single father. The Browns & Larry have multiple mothers in common. The Browns & the Duggars both support their children, share a commitment to each other, & have religious ties.

Personally, I think the Browns & the Duggars are miles above Larry & his baby mamas. They support their children, parent them, & are committed to each other in holy matrimony (the definition of which is dependent on their chosen religion).

So why are the Browns persecuted while the Duggars aren’t? Sure, the Duggars have their own share of nay-sayers, but as far as I am aware, none of them have resulted in legal issues. Both call on their religion to guide their family structures – the Browns follow a religion that embraces polygamy (though they have never publicly specified which religion), while the Duggars are Christians who believe that God will bless them with as many children as He wants them to raise. So why the disparity? Why should the number of women make a difference if Larry can have all the baby mamas he wants? At least Kody is present for his children.

There are blended families everywhere you look. We are one. McDreamy gets custody of Zola every other weekend. We rarely get to see her in between. Which means we go two weeks between visits. Based on what we see through the show (which I know is somewhat scripted, but seems to be pretty “real”), Kody sees most of his children on a daily basis. Sure, he may miss a few of the older kids a couple of days here & there, since they are off with friends or involved in sports, but by-&-large, they all get to see him at least once daily. We would love to have that opportunity. Does that make their family structure superior to ours? If it does, should we hire a lawyer?

& doesn’t Utah have anything better to use their resources on? Why spend so much time, money, & manpower to investigate a family that, for all intents & purposes, seems healthy, taken care of, & well-adjusted? It really makes no sense to me, except as a political move. Once the series premiered, media & the public’s attention was placed squarely on the Browns (& thereby Utah). Because of the controversial family structure & Utah’s anti-polygamy laws (which define polygamy as co-habitation vs. other states who prohibit multiple marriages), I can only surmise that the political bigwigs of Utah felt that something needed to be done. So, they initiated the investigation & waste of resources.

But wait! Didn’t the Browns bring this on themselves? NO. Yes, they decided to broadcast their polygamist lifestyle on a national level. But the ridiculous notion that polygamy should be illegal, is “wrong”, et cetera is to blame here. If this antiquated notion was put to rest, this family could go on living, as they have for decades. In peace. As a family. Happy. Healthy. Whole.

What’s so wrong with that?

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May 19, 2011

The Charlie Sheen of The Internets (WINNING!)

Pinterest.com

If you haven’t checked it out yet, RUN FAR AWAY.

I’m kidding. Sort of.

Pinterest is a really neat website. The basics: You download a button to your toolbar that allows you to “pin” things. You can pin anything you find on the web – craft ideas, meal ideas, music, clothing, anything. Once you sign up (it’s currently invitation-only, I’ll get to that in a minute), you can follow other people’s boards & repin things you like. People can follow you & repin what they like. It’s a giant web (ha! Get it? On the web?!) of people pinning & repinning & finding new things from all over The Internets. Plus, when you pin something, your pin links directly back to the website it came from. So no more, “Where did I see that mega-cool idea again?”

Jill from BabyRabies.com is starting a McLinky for everyone’s Pin of the Week.

My favorite?

Lullabies for Getty.

A gorgeous collection of songs put together to benefit The Getty Owl Foundation. Getty is a little girl with Spinal Muscular Atrophy. They are fighting for a cure. They are fighting against time. Getty recently turned one. Children with SMA aren’t given long life expectancies. So, they are enjoying every moment & fighting for a cure.

The album is $9.99 on iTunes. Go. Buy it. (Click on the image for a direct link)

You won’t regret it. It truly is spectacular.

(Pinterest is currrently by invite only – you can request an invite, I got mine in a couple weeks. OR, you can leave me a comment with your email address – I suggest typing it out as youremail at wherever dot com to avoid the spam bots – & I’ll send you one as quickly as I can.)

P.S. There is a Pinterest APP! Yay! Time suck on-the-go!!

P.P.S. I totally don’t mean to be insulting by calling Pinterest the Charlie Sheen of the Internets. I mean it in a totally awesomesauce way – because they are so clearly WINNING!)

May 18, 2011

Focus.

I’ve been meaning to update Ye Olde Blog for several weeks now. I’ve got several posts simmering on back burners right now, but haven’t really had the passion to write them down.

So, an update. McDreamy finished his field training, meaning he is now working the night shift. Alone. Well, not totally alone, there are other guys on his shift, but alone as in, only one in the car. Like, backup might be miles away alone.

I’m a complete contradiction over this. On one hand, he is GOOD at what he does. I trust him to make good judgement calls & come home safe at the end of his shift. I don’t really mind being home alone, other than the fact that I sometimes often lose track of time & end up not going to bed until 1am. Mainly because I get sucked into the vast expanses of The Internets & before I know it, it’s late (10:32pm) & I still have dishes to do & laundry to wash (because I have NO scrubs to wear to work tomorrow) & there are so many dust bunnies I need to sweep up that I’m afraid they are plotting world domination starting with my house, & before long, we will all be subservient to the dust bunny war lords & it will be all my fault.

On the other hand, he is ALONE. In the dark. Checking buildings when alarms go off, stopping (potentially) drunk people for swerving, going to houses on domestic calls. Now, typically, there is an officer to assist in the first & last scenarios, but still. He straps on his bullet-proof vest on work nights & drives away into the impending darkness. My husband has to wear a bullet-proof vest to work. ::deep breath:: & because he’s gone, the dogs are on high alert ALL.NIGHT.LONG. The slightest noise sets them off into the Apocalyptic Death Nell. It is ridiculous. They were like this when he was in the academy, too. But then, he would come home in a couple of hours. Now, he isn’t home until morning. Which means I usually get at least one rude awakening that has me reaching for my gun because OMG THERE MIGHT BE AN INTRUDER THIS TIME FOR REAL. It’s quite nerve-racking.

In uterus news (are you listening, GOP Uterus Police?!), I had my appointment with the RE today. We discussed my long, sometimes anovulatory cycles. He feels that I probably have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). He recommended 3 treatment cycles with a medication to help ovulation. If I haven’t gotten pregnant by the end of the third cycle, we’ll pursue testing to see if there is a secondary reason. He feels that, baring any other issues, I may have just not had enough true opportunities to get pregnant due to my lack of ovulation.

He gave me the choice of the standby Clomid, or a drug called anastrazole. They work differently, but achieve the same effect. Clomid is an anti-estrogen drug; it binds the estrogen receptors, effectively stopping the effects of estrogen – which signals your pituitary gland to produce more Follicle Stimulating Hormone (FSH) & Lutenizing Hormone (LH). FSH & LH are the two hormones primarily responsible for follicle growth/eventual ovulation. The side effects are mainly due to the estrogen-blocking effects – vaginal dryness, mood swings, thickened cervical mucous, thin uterine lining. Clomid has been approved by the FDA for treating infertility caused by anovulation.

Anastrazole is actually a breast cancer drug. It is used to prevent breast cancer in high-risk women, because it is an estrogen suppressant (most breast cancers are estrogen-driven). Instead of completely blocking estrogen like Clomid does, it lowers the overall level of estrogen. The level is low enough to still cause a stimulation of FSH & LH, but without completely shutting down the other functions of estrogen – mood regulation, thinning of cervical mucous, thickening of the uterine lining. Using it to help with ovulation is off-label (which I’m okay with).

I’ve chosen the anastrazole to start with. But, because we are out-of-pocket for all treatment expenses, it will probably be a few months before we start our first treatment cycle. I still need to go in for blood work on day 3 of my next period (obviously if I’m not pregnant this cycle) to measure FSH, LH, A1C, lipids, prolactin, etc. The doctor is also going to write a letter of medical necessity to my insurance company to see if they will cover a test for Fragile X (which is a gene linked to mental retardation & autism – my maternal half-brother is severely autistic). Luckily, my CD3 blood work & baseline ultrasound will be covered as diagnostic, so that helps. But a cycle will still run us between $200 – $400, depending on how well I respond & whether I need additional drugs/blood work/ultrasounds. We could probably swing the $200 next month, but not $400. We’ll have to save up for that.

This month has been absolutely crazy. McDreamy started nightshift, Christina is getting married, we had massive storms & tornados all across the region (& in our figurative back yard – lets say  I’m very lucky to still have a job to go to). So, I am on a self-imposed charting break this month – that is to say I have no effing clue where I am in my cycle. IF I ovulated “normally”, I should be starting my period (or be getting a positive test) in the next day or two. If not, who knows? I’ve decided I won’t test until Saturday morning, & that is only because Christina’s wedding is Saturday & I shouldn’t drink if I am in fact knocked up 🙂 The doctor pulled a progesterone test today to try & confirm whether I have ovulated or not, so that should help.

& now that I am quickly approaching 1,000 words (this is what happens when I slack off & don’t update often enough!) I will bid you adieu, before your head explodes from the wordiness of it all.

P.S. Could you please pray/light a candle/meditate/whatever you do for me? I’d really like to see a second line on Saturday so I don’t have to shell out wads of cash to get a chance at a baby. Thanks.